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Post by daisy24601 on Apr 10, 2019 21:29:31 GMT
As well as agreeing with everyone else, I'll throw another into the ring. "I could care less". An Americanism that sadly seems to be making it's way over here. If you could care less then you care some. It completely defeats the point!
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Post by showgirl on Apr 11, 2019 4:00:14 GMT
Also, euphemisms about dying: saying someone "passed away" or "we lost X" etc - no, they died. Death is part of life but in this country we seem to shy away from, rather than accept that. The more we resist, the harder it will be when it happens - which could be any time, for any of us.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 4:48:27 GMT
Also, euphemisms about dying: saying someone "passed away" or "we lost X" etc - no, they died. Worse than that is saying they "passed", which must have resulted in people saying "congratulations". |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 6:21:46 GMT
Hmmm, personally I think that people left behind after someone they love has died can describe the death however they like, in whatever way makes them feel a little better to cope with the grief really, whether that be a "lost battle" or they just "died" and I don't think there is anything disrespectful about either. The wider population irritate me in so very many ways on a fairly regular basis, I think I can give them a pass on this one though.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 6:50:59 GMT
Also, euphemisms about dying: saying someone "passed away" or "we lost X" etc - no, they died. Death is part of life but in this country we seem to shy away from, rather than accept that. The more we resist, the harder it will be when it happens - which could be any time, for any of us. Well if someone you love dies then you have lost them, as you no longer have them in your life. I don't see anything wrong or disrespectful about that, indeed I think it's more disrespectful to be critical of how someone grieving chooses to describe what has happened. It's their choice, no-one else's. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 7:29:13 GMT
But there comes a point where the euphemism obscures the message. The last time someone I knew died I found out about it when someone said he'd been to their funeral the previous day, which makes it pretty clear that the person is either dead or extremely annoyed. But a couple of years ago a work colleague died and when I was told about it it took me a short while to realise what had happened, and one of our customers was told and asked if it would still be possible to contact him. At that point you're not softening the blow. You're setting people up for a misunderstanding that's going to make them feel even more terrible than they would anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 7:31:43 GMT
I agree that it would probably be helpful for everyone if we had a more comfortable relationship with death and were able to talk about it straightforwardly and unambiguously, but it really is just so hard to say the words sometimes. I was looking after a friend's pet while she was on holiday and the poor thing died before the friend came back. Said pet was fairly old and not very well, so the friend wasn't overly surprised when I called to tell her about the death, but even though I decided not to beat around the bush or use any euphemisms, I ended up saying "I'm so sorry, it's Snuffles, he did die", like that's not the most awkward possible phrasing I could have come up with. And that was just a wee domestic pet with a comparatively short life expectancy.
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Post by londonmzfitz on Apr 11, 2019 8:49:28 GMT
Also, euphemisms about dying: saying someone "passed away" or "we lost X" etc - no, they died. Death is part of life but in this country we seem to shy away from, rather than accept that. The more we resist, the harder it will be when it happens - which could be any time, for any of us. Well if someone you love dies then you have lost them, as you no longer have them in your life. I don't see anything wrong or disrespectful about that, indeed I think it's more disrespectful to be critical of how someone grieving chooses to describe what has happened. It's their choice, no-one else's. Might be seen as disrespectful but whenever someone says "I lost - mum/dad/sister" etc my immediate thought is "well that was careless of you, should we put up posters". "Lost" feels like an act of clumsiness. You can lose a ring, or a credit card, but to lose a whole person .... Just saying what's in my head. |
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Post by Dawnstar on Apr 11, 2019 18:23:26 GMT
Huge pet hate: the phrase "lost his/her battle with cancer". It's horribly disrespectful. People who die from cancer don't "lose" a battle. Yes also this! When people say they "won their battle", I always think so those who die what, didn't fight hard enough? Disrespectful as you say. I definitely agree with this. It's not as if people who die of cancer usually go "Okay, can't be bothered with this, I'll just die". They generally don't have any choice in the matter.
(On a somewhat related note, it also bugs me that whenever there are articles about people having mental health problems the focus is nearly always on overcoming them. I'd prefer more acknowledgement that for many people it's a case of living with them.)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2019 19:15:14 GMT
So,my pet hate at the moment is sentences beginning with’so’...am hearing it all the time and grammatically it is soooo wrong.So there!
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Post by 49thand8th on Apr 11, 2019 21:31:36 GMT
So,my pet hate at the moment is sentences beginning with’so’...am hearing it all the time and grammatically it is soooo wrong.So there! How do you feel about no spaces after periods and commas? |
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Post by FrontrowverPaul on Apr 12, 2019 0:04:44 GMT
My three hates, with a borderline fourth, all in one short sentence
"So it was like really amazing."
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 6:45:26 GMT
I hear you,49thand8th,but with my eyesight problems,typing is becoming a real problem.
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Post by londonmzfitz on Apr 12, 2019 8:26:44 GMT
"Sorry but ..."
= couldn't give a flying **** about your opinion, here's mine with attitude.
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Post by Tibidabo on Apr 12, 2019 8:36:03 GMT
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Post by TallPaul on Apr 12, 2019 8:58:13 GMT
I'm not being funny...
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Post by Tibidabo on Apr 12, 2019 9:06:48 GMT
...so no change there then... |
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Post by TallPaul on Apr 12, 2019 9:18:14 GMT
...so no change there then... How rude! There are two types of people in the world. Those who are funny...and those who are nice. 🙂 |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 9:18:31 GMT
I've started interrupting my co-worker who says this a lot with "you will let us know when you are trying to be funny, won't you?". If anyone is wondering how I manage to get through each day without being slapped at least once, don't worry, I'm wondering the exact same thing every day of my life. |
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Post by liv22 on Apr 12, 2019 10:13:58 GMT
I have a co-worker who constantly ends each sentence with "do you know what I mean?" It drives me crazy. Yes, I know what you mean, and if I didn't I could just ask.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 11:14:41 GMT
Thanks,liv 22,this made me laugh out loud 😂
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Post by londonmzfitz on Apr 12, 2019 11:20:11 GMT
"turned around and said"
A good friend in a conversation will add this continuously ... as in, "so I turned around and said - , and then he turned around and said - . So I turned around and said - ". In my head they were spinning around saying things to each other. Amusing (and then v. irritating)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2019 11:26:30 GMT
Thanks guys am having a torrid day at work and this has brightened up lunch no end.Cheers,theatreboarders x
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Post by Deal J on Apr 12, 2019 11:31:53 GMT
It's disgusting and it has to stop immediately!
...that's what a TheatreBoard user said about the way Midlands Tonight starts almost every news article.
The presenters rely on that style far too much, it's like spoken click-bait headlines and sounds horrible.
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Post by TallPaul on Apr 12, 2019 11:46:01 GMT
I know it's more modern, and I'm incredibly old-fashioned, but I have to admit to not being a great fan of 'co-worker'. Along with all kinds of other things, some nicer than others, I hope I'm thought of as a colleague.
Ironically, it really grates (or gyrates 😉) when I'm in Sainsbury's and, "This is a colleagues announcement," comes over the tannoy.
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