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Post by samuelwhiskers on Nov 18, 2017 14:12:36 GMT
It could be for any reason. It might have nothing to do with you personally. I worked with an actor once who was abusive to the point I made a formal complaint, and I blocked a few of his perfectly nice fans because I just didn't want to see this guy's name and face all over my mentions every day. I once got accidentally blocked by a theatre I was actually working with at the time, and when I asked the social media guy he couldn't figure out how it'd happened.
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Post by sempala on Nov 18, 2017 15:18:17 GMT
I totally see all your points, I’m just a little shook. It’s not like the messages were exactly frequent, and the fact it was only 3 of them. I would totally understand she may not want people using the dm section but her stories acted as though she had be requested to do things, one example being she said she had been getting lots of messages about her hair and what products she uses.
I’ll be happy to accept any blame, just would like to understand her thought process I guess. I did find it a bit rude haha.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 18, 2017 15:52:45 GMT
I totally see all your points, I’m just a little shook. It’s not like the messages were exactly frequent, and the fact it was only 3 of them. I would totally understand she may not want people using the dm section but her stories acted as though she had be requested to do things, one example being she said she had been getting lots of messages about her hair and what products she uses. I’ll be happy to accept any blame, just would like to understand her thought process I guess. I did find it a bit rude haha. Oh I'd totally be upset if it were me- I'm still annoyed/upset that Roxanne Gay blocked me for a reasonable and mild critique of something she said, and I'm not even a fan of hers! it's horrible thinking you've been misunderstood- but I genuinely think this was something of a misunderstanding/misconstruing what you said or meant on her part rather than her thinking anything malicious of it. Social media is a minefield! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 18, 2017 22:31:02 GMT
Is that Instagram? If so, I think the etiquette is that commenting on posts is fine - it's what they are there for - but sending private messages to someone you don't know could come across as a bit intrusive and stalkerish. I'd probably block someone who kept doing that as well. Social media is a minefield though and if you're a public figure and you make yourself available you've got to expect people to try to interact with you. Equally they are entitled to set limits. i reply to instagram stories sometimes and never had an issue. sometimes get replies to my comments too. making comments on stories can easily be turned off if the person doesnt like them. |
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Post by harrietcraig on Nov 19, 2017 4:21:16 GMT
Another Stoppard story: I met him backstage at the Broadway production of Night and Day. I had seen the show with a friend who had a friend in the cast, so we went backstage afterwards, and there was Stoppard wandering around. My friend knew I idolized him (seeing the original Broadway production of Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead when I was 17 was the gateway drug to a lifelong theatre addiction), so he asked his actor friend to introduce us. Introduction duly made, I was promptly struck speechless in awe; I finally attempted to say something like, "I've read everything you have ever written", but I'm afraid it may have come out as, "I've written everything you have ever read" (fat chance of that, with Stoppard). My friend attempted to save the day by saying, "Harriet has even read your novel", to which Stoppard replied, "No one has read the novel" (more in incredulity than contradiction). Nice man, but I hope I never meet him again, because I would probably make a fool of myself all over again.
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Post by kathryn on Nov 19, 2017 10:29:30 GMT
Is that Instagram? If so, I think the etiquette is that commenting on posts is fine - it's what they are there for - but sending private messages to someone you don't know could come across as a bit intrusive and stalkerish. I'd probably block someone who kept doing that as well. Social media is a minefield though and if you're a public figure and you make yourself available you've got to expect people to try to interact with you. Equally they are entitled to set limits. i reply to instagram stories sometimes and never had an issue. sometimes get replies to my comments too. making comments on stories can easily be turned off if the person doesnt like them. But isn't there a diffetrence between comments and private messages? I would probably block someone who sent me private messages 3 times that I hadn't responded to, on the basis that they hadn't taken the hint and were probably going to keep doing it. I've been known to block people who followed me on Twitter after taking a swift look at their profile (and have had people block me). No-one should feel obliged to interact with a complete stranger online, down that road madness lies! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2017 16:50:51 GMT
not really because if you reply to a story it acts like a direct message that can only be seen by the poster/creator of the story. The stories are only there for 24 hours the vanish, which is why in the screenshots above you can see the posters comments but not the image or video they were replying to.
it could be because, by the look of it, the third message was a direct message without being a direct reply to a story and thats when they were blocked. seems a bit odd to block someone for a dm, unless you have messaged them plenty of times before. if people are that worried about strangers contacting them make your instagram private or switch dms off
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2017 10:04:13 GMT
not really because if you reply to a story it acts like a direct message that can only be seen by the poster/creator of the story. The stories are only there for 24 hours the vanish, which is why in the screenshots above you can see the posters comments but not the image or video they were replying to. it could be because, by the look of it, the third message was a direct message without being a direct reply to a story and thats when they were blocked. seems a bit odd to block someone for a dm, unless you have messaged them plenty of times before. if people are that worried about strangers contacting them make your instagram private or switch dms off God, social media is complicated...! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2017 16:57:31 GMT
^id find that really rude to be honest if Someone blocked me for that. What did you do wrong? Only being friendly towards them. Do actors not like it if people Direct message them, even if it was to say about the show they saw them in?
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Post by kathryn on Nov 20, 2017 17:44:42 GMT
You know how, when you have an email inbox full of unsolicited messages from companies trying to sell you stuff and individuals you don't know it's really annoying, because you have to wade through time to get to the emails you really want to read?
You know how you mark them as junk or otherwise block them, to try and get rid of them and avoid receiving them again?
Do you think you're doing something rude when you do that, or do you regard it as completely necessary sanity-preservation?
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Post by Elle on Nov 21, 2017 16:14:21 GMT
I have met quite a few actors at the stage doors on Broadway and most of them were good experiences. One encounter that really stands out for me was with Jessica Chastain at the play The Heiress in early 2013. J.C was very warm, kind and humble with everyone at the stage door. She thanked us for coming to the show, for waiting at the stage door and apologized for taking a while to come out. It was late at night and very cold but she still took the time to talk to everyone. When I asked if I could have a pic with her please she said "I would love to!" with a big smile and pulled me close to her. Then she thanked me again. I thought she was really lovely.
Sometimes you can feel like a bit of a nuisance at the stage door but J.C genuinely seemed to appreciate us being there. Then the next night she was at the Golden Globes in LA so she had a big day coming up too.
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Post by callum on Nov 21, 2017 18:17:43 GMT
Glad to hear she's just as lovely irl as she is in interviews and on social media.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2017 18:24:46 GMT
I already said it on the 42nd Street thread, but Clare Halse and Stuart Neal. Just two of the loveliest people ever. I think because this show obviously has an older audience, it doesn't get too much stzge door attention. So when they do get some people there, they really do stop and chat. They were so lovely, I had a proper conversation with both of them for about 5 minutes each about the show and themselves. They wanted to know more about me and asked what my twitter and stuff was. They were huggers, giving everyone hugs and handshakes. Just the loveliest people really.  |
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Post by basi1faw1ty on Jan 15, 2018 22:59:29 GMT
I was nearly about to make a new thread on this topic, so I'm glad I had a dig through the archives and found this  All the actors I've encountered have fortunately never been rude or nasty. They've only ranged from pleasant to absolute darlings. One of my favourite encounters was undoubtedly with Charlie Edwards (this may sound biased coming from me, but hear me out). One of the most humble, affable, and charming men I've come across. I am however taken aback by how tall he is. His 6'2" completely dwarfs my 5'3" when he stands next to me. He's a good hugger, too, as me and my acquaintances can vouch. (I could write a 100 page essay on my experiences, but I shan't.) Also Jemima Rooper is great, so is Martin Clunes, Andrew Havill and Olivia Williams. I saw Olivia behind the NT stage door in a purple dressing gown with her hair up in a towel, and she saw me and motioned me inside so she could sign my programme, as she wasn't allowed outside in a dressing gown, obviously. Even though I wasn't expecting her to show up, I apologised profusely for inconveniencing her but she wasn't at all bothered and more than happy to oblige. And then there's Michael Palin. There's a reason why nobody has ever had a bad word to say about him, because he really is that nice. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 0:25:57 GMT
I stagedoored last week after Hamilton. Met a lot of the actors (Jamael, Tarinn, Michael, Jason, Cleve, Giles, Marsha and ensemble members Leslie and Kelly) and they were all so nice, stopped to sign programmes and pose for selfies. Tarinn is ADORABLE! And Jamael was also so sweet, he spent like a full half an hour talking to fans.
Funny story, Leslie told us he bought tickets to see the show a year ago, before knowing he was gonna be in it, and he didn't get a refund lol.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 1:57:22 GMT
I was once introduced to Sir IanMcKellan. I was quite nervous and shy. He asked me a question and when I started to answer it he made it clear that he was bored, cut me off and abruptly changed the subject turning away to talk to someone else, completely ignoring me. As a callow youth I was peeved but acknowledged that I was indeed being boring. I also met AnthonySher who seemed a gentle and sensitive soul who gave the kid I was the space to be self important. I encountered McKellan again years later and overheard him being bitchy about another actor’s Coriolanus.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 9:30:21 GMT
I encountered McKellan again years later and overheard him being bitchy about another actor’s Coriolanus. Well, I think we've all done that at one time or another. I guess we've even criticised their acting performances too occasionally. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 11:17:15 GMT
Isn't that to do with which direction it goes when you curl one out according to whether you're in the northern or southern hemisphere? |
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Post by sophizoey on Jan 16, 2018 12:34:47 GMT
Isn't that to do with which direction it goes when you curl one out according to whether you're in the northern or southern hemisphere? That's the coriolis effect:) Anyway, I'll contribute to the subject while I'm here. I've met nothing but nice actors. Some nicer than others. The nicest guy I've ever met is Adam Bayjou though. He's incredibly sweet if you can approach him. |
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Post by ellie1981 on Jan 16, 2018 18:46:55 GMT
I met Sheridan Smith several times in a pub over a space of a few weeks - the rehearsal space for a show she was doing was opposite our regular after work haunt. She was absolutely lovely, especially when some of my party (complete strangers to theatre) started bugging her just because they’d seen her on TV.
Martin Ball has always been extremely nice at the stage door, but I haven’t done any hanging around at a stage door for about 10 years now.
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Post by Dawnstar on Jan 16, 2018 19:41:03 GMT
Martin Ball has always been extremely nice at the stage door, but I haven’t done any hanging around at a stage door for about 10 years now. I can assure you that he's still extremely nice 10 years later! |
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Post by adamkinsey on Mar 15, 2023 12:28:29 GMT
I've been very lucky to work with or encounter a lot of fellow performers over the years so will restrict myself to the very nicest and the very rudest:
LOVELY
Judi Dench, Angela Lansbury, Gyles Brandreth, Simon Russell Beale, Anita Harris, Jonathan Pryce
NOT SO LOVELY
Nigel Havers, Jenni Eclair, Sue Perkins, Jeremy Irons, Nigel Havers
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Post by theglenbucklaird on Mar 15, 2023 16:26:23 GMT
I've been very lucky to work with or encounter a lot of fellow performers over the years so will restrict myself to the very nicest and the very rudest: LOVELY Judi Dench, Angela Lansbury, Gyles Brandreth, Simon Russell Beale, Anita Harris, Jonathan Pryce NOT SO LOVELY Nigel Havers, Jenni Eclair, Sue Perkins, Jeremy Irons, Nigel Havers Havers must really bad |
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Post by alece10 on Mar 15, 2023 17:58:11 GMT
I've been lucky enough to have met hundreds of actors over many years as a volunteer in the theatre and also working as production assistant. I can't say I have come across anyone who stood out as being rude (maybe I was lucky) but I do have some favourites who are absolutely lovely and include:
Cynthia Erivo
Sheridan Smith
Anna Jane Casey
Damian Humbley
Alexander Hanson
Jamie Parker
Matthew Horne
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Post by oxfordsimon on Mar 15, 2023 18:28:37 GMT
I've been lucky enough to have met hundreds of actors over many years as a volunteer in the theatre and also working as production assistant. I can't say I have come across anyone who stood out as being rude (maybe I was lucky) but I do have some favourites who are absolutely lovely and include: Cynthia Erivo Sheridan Smith Anna Jane Casey Damian Humbley Alexander Hanson Jamie Parker Matthew Horne Curious, one of the names on your list is one of the worst people in terms of behaviour that I have met in a theatre context. |
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