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Post by ellaoftheball on Dec 19, 2021 2:38:50 GMT
My husband wants our son (13 years old) to go to his barbers for his haircuts from now on but I think he should keep going to my hairdressers because she knows how to do it properly.
Who’s right here because we’ve had a argument about it? What do your teen son’s do?
My sons hair is slightly longer than most boys hair so that’s also another reason why I think my hairdresser should keep on doing it
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Post by londonpostie on Dec 19, 2021 4:21:37 GMT
Random!
He's more than ready for a trip to the barbers but might be time to trust the lad with a little responsibility - to choose what he wants. The key, though, is to not make it seem like he's choosing between parents. Responsibility is good.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2021 6:19:01 GMT
Definitely the barbers. Regardless of hair length, which all barbers will be able to cut, he's getting to the age where going to the barbers almost becomes a rite of passage. Of course he might want to stay at the hairdressers, but most young boys wouldn't want mum cramping their style having to go with her.
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Post by couldileaveyou on Dec 19, 2021 8:55:21 GMT
I'm 25 and I go to my mother's hairdresser every time I go home because they cut my hair better than anywhere else I've ever been. When I was 8 I went to my father's barber twice, but no one liked the result so I just kept going to my mother's hairdresser afterwards. Maybe you can send him to your husband's barber for a trim, so if neither you nor your son like the result you'll have a valid reason not to send him back in the future
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Post by Mark on Dec 19, 2021 9:05:58 GMT
Maybe ask him what he wants to do? He's old enough to make that decision for himself.
For the past few years I went to a typical hairdressers and enjoyed having my cuppa tea and biscuits and chatting with the "girls". When I moved back down to London I have a barbers just along from me so go there now.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2021 9:43:23 GMT
I'm 25 and I go to my mother's hairdresser every time I go home because they cut my hair better than anywhere else I've ever been. When I was 8 I went to my father's barber twice, but no one liked the result so I just kept going to my mother's hairdresser afterwards. Maybe you can send him to your husband's barber for a trim, so if neither you nor your son like the result you'll have a valid reason not to send him back in the future My experience of barbers is the same, I’ve been told it’s especially common with curly hair. I would always leave unhappy. On the rare occasions they cut my hair well I was never guaranteed to have that same barber again, unless I was prepared to wait even longer for them. Salons tend to hire staff with a broader range of skills, I’ve found, plus you can always book in with the same stylist each time. I’d be tempted to him to the barber and then see how he feels after. A bad haircut only lasts for a few days and then he can say what he’d prefer after experiencing both. |
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Post by karloscar on Dec 19, 2021 10:27:43 GMT
How horrendous having both parents trying to dictate his appearance. Let the poor lad decide for himself. Bet he can't wait to leave home!
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Post by og on Dec 19, 2021 10:28:27 GMT
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Post by ellaoftheball on Dec 19, 2021 11:10:56 GMT
I am trying to get a range of opinions |
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Post by ellaoftheball on Dec 19, 2021 11:13:25 GMT
How horrendous having both parents trying to dictate his appearance. Let the poor lad decide for himself. Bet he can't wait to leave home! He’s not sure if he would prefer the hairdressers or Barbers but he usually agrees with me on most things. But I also don’t want him to feel like he can’t have his own opinion on things if you get what I mean |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2021 11:18:33 GMT
I am trying to get a range of opinions Sounds like you're just posting everywhere you can think of until someone agrees with you. Let the kid choose - you don't control his life and the more you try to control things like this that don't matter, the more it will probably backfire on you later. |
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Post by Marwood on Dec 19, 2021 12:56:11 GMT
Barbers: it’s time for him to step up to the plate and have awkward conversations with whoever is cutting his hair about manly things like football and where he’s going on holiday 😂
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2021 13:06:55 GMT
And learn the skill of knowing his place in the queue no matter how many people are there, along with the nervousness of the person in front of him saying "you can go next" and sitting there wondering what that person knows about this barber that made them decide they'd rather wait for someone else.
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Post by theglenbucklaird on Dec 19, 2021 13:18:38 GMT
Barbers: it’s time for him to step up to the plate and have awkward conversations with whoever is cutting his hair about manly things like football and where he’s going on holiday 😂 Is nearly correct. Depends how adorable his current hairdresser is. Hormones and just becoming a teenager and all that |
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Post by cavocado on Dec 19, 2021 13:37:10 GMT
I've got a teenage son. I just asked him what he thought and he laughed and said "why would anyone care where you get your hair cut?"
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Post by Dr Tom on Dec 19, 2021 14:26:53 GMT
To me, it depends mostly if it’s a style for clippers or scissors. Very little difference in pricing where I am in London, but that could be a consideration.
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Post by Marwood on Dec 19, 2021 15:36:00 GMT
Barbers: it’s time for him to step up to the plate and have awkward conversations with whoever is cutting his hair about manly things like football and where he’s going on holiday 😂 Is nearly correct. Depends how adorable his current hairdresser is. Hormones and just becoming a teenager and all that Well he might go into a barbers and end up with a lovely lady cutting his hair who will give him something to, er, dream about for years to come but she might give him a shonky haircut and he comes out looking like a reject from Flock of Seagulls 🤪 |
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Post by jamie2c on Dec 19, 2021 18:24:45 GMT
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Post by sfsusan on Dec 19, 2021 19:31:00 GMT
Let him decide. (When I was a little younger than him, my dad took me to his barber [I'm a girl, but had relatively short hair]. Looking back, I'm surprised Mom went along with it, but I enjoyed the bonding time with Dad.)
Or if he can get to both locations on his own, give him the money and let him vote with his feet. (And don't ask him which he chose.)
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Post by danb on Dec 19, 2021 22:20:56 GMT
My teenage sons both had a favourite barbers in our village (not the same), and now the youngest has longer hair and is planning on going to my wifes hairdresser to have it shaped properly. But that has been his decision and not ours.
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Post by vickyg on Dec 20, 2021 9:22:29 GMT
There are a lot of things that I’m delighted not to think about through not having children but I had never considered the social etiquette of a barbers as part of that!
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