"Should Have not Should Of" and other pet peeves in posts

I think I just won't bother to post anymore. It's becoming far too much hassle. Sometimes I forget to use a correct apostrophe or correct punctuation on here. It isn't a lack of understanding of correct usage. It's a combination of laziness and a phone on which it's hard enough to see what I'm typing without worrying too much about making sure everything is perfect.
Surely we're all here for our shared love of the theatre rather than to pick on others. Thanks. It's been fun while it lasted.

I don't mind it in some places, but I think it's annoying here because we have the "like" function. If you want to display support but have nothing to add, click the little heart instead of adding an unnecessary post.

Also, having now gone through the whole thread, I agree with the principle that people should feel free to make their posts without feeling like someone's going to come along and correct them because this is a fun and relaxing place and no one's getting paid or graded or otherwise judged for it. HOWEVER the one thing that really flabbergasts me is when people mis-spell someone else's name, that they only ever see written down on here. If we all hung out in person and you could reasonably have mis-guessed the spelling when it came to writing it down on a rare occasion, that would be one thing, but our names are all WRITTEN DOWN NEXT TO EVERY POST WE MAKE. Mis-spell and mis-punctuate and mis-grammar whatever you want, but don't mis-spell someone's NAME for heaven's sake, that's fairly disrespectful (though actually I suppose I wouldn't care much if people were mis-spelling my name, as Baemax itself is a purposeful misspelling of Baymax ).

No I did not.

I used a play on words, shifting around the letters that make up the word 'crap.'

Nothing more.  

It was not meant as anything more.  My final words on the subject.  

  

I'm not a native speaker and I'm having a hell of a time with English apostrophes, since German doesn't do them. Funny thing: More and more young Germans who have learnt somewhat decent English start throwing (English) apostrophes into German sentences where they have absolutely no business to be. Though German was messed up by a "reform" in the 90s which was later partly rescinded, so people have no clue these days what's right and what's not. 

Another funny thing: German adapts English words but not the plural form. So we have a Baby in German but instead of Babies we have Babys. I often find I accidentally use the "Germanic plural" in English too, when I write about Babys or Partys or something. And don't get me started on Handys

But there are some people who can't, who find language difficult to understand and then change - like myself. Which is why those little things really don't bother me. A friend of mine who writes injoy rather than enjoy because she says injoy. I say and write gotten. Big deal. I'm 33 years old I have got more important things to worry about in my future than battling correct usage of words and grammer.

Actually this is the problem with English language it's far too complex. I struggle a great deal with pronouncing words as well. There are words to look at I know what they mean but can't say them. It's very frustrating. I have a slightly unusal accent because of how I have learnt how to say certain words. I have known people from all over the country & world who I have asked to repeat words over and over again so I remember them then picked up their accent. Even now I see a word sometimes, then ask someone how to pronounce it - it in no way sounded anything like what I tried to pronounce in my head. Then I have the other side where I know how to pronounce it but not how to spell it.

It's trouble when trying to learn words in other languages. I go to see Les Miz (a lot) I have to ask the actors at stage door how to pronounce their characters. It took me ages to correctly pronounce Montparnasse they say it in the show. But I still can't say Claquesous I can spell it but I can't say it though.

I often get told I write how I speak.

It has taken me 50 or so minutes to actually write this. That is how difficult it to even write some times.

I don't understand how a person can't see that a 'joke' or whatever you want to call it about rearranging letters, and calling something crap/dyslexic. As I said above/at the time I don't understand how dyslexia is 'fair game' when we wouldn't tolerate comments on other disabilities.

I have two BA's and I received tuition constantly throughout them and yet some rules have just gone in. It's not as simple as you assume

You know what? There are things I see written that annoy me, and there are things that don't. That's not necessarily to do with their grammatical or linguistic correctness, or my perception of the writer's ability, it's just to do with me. It's entirely irrational.

I have to deal with this a lot as part of my job. I have authors and editors who insist on things being written a certain way just because they find it annoying written another way - not because it's *wrong*, just because that's how they're used to seeing it written. People are funny about these things - I have a colleague who is currently waging a battle over the use of the salutation 'Greetings' in one of our communications. She just can't stand it; it doesn't bother me at all. Our Indian colleagues think it's rude *not* to have it.

In these cases, we tend to gauge the level of irritation something causes to the audience when deciding what to change, and how important that person is in the scheme of things.

That's completely fair and clearly we were talking at different things. 100% agree that there's no excuse for anything beyond a typo (and even then...) in professional documents. And although editors have leeway as we all do for personal preference in some areas, that yes the 'correct' language in published/professional work should be right! (hell I've marked enough student essays in my times with a  general 'WTF is this' comment on them!!) 

I agree, this forum is supposed to be fun, interesting and relaxed. Not managed on every, single post and to make people feel like crap for making a grammatical error or two. It comes across more elitest (even though that may not be the intention) and it can make some people on here feel bad when they shouldn't.

I can't think of a single example where 'should of' can be used. The same goes for 'would of' and 'could of'. (Happy to be corrected.) So your suggestion that some of us are liguistcally privileged to grasp this is just ridiculous. (And I don't care how many 'likes' you get to the contrary...!) It's simple; the next time you go to type/write 'should of'... DON'T!

We all have to learn, and I completely understand that we all learn differently and at different rates. But you wouldn't keep buying a ticket for the balcony and then try time after time to sit in the stalls, telling the usher that it's difficult for you to grasp, would you? The usher might (quite rightly) call you a dick.

Unfair of you to claim that anyone who shows consideration for our language and how it's used is one.